You take my self, you take my self control
You need to exercise this at all times and assume responsibility for your actions.
If you have never worked for yourself before, it can be a difficult transition from having someone tell you what to do all the time and pay a comforting, regular pay cheque into your bank each week or month.
Being self employed is different.
You need to manage your time and finances impeccably. It is all too easy to go off at a tangent as you research the web or find “something else to do” whilst you are at home and you need to curb your spending habits until you have a better understanding of how your new situation will work financially.
Treat your day as though you are at work, because you are. I found this very difficult at the beginning and it can also be difficult for your spouse or partner to understand this too.
I know it sounds boring but try to set yourself daily, weekly, monthly, yearly targets and most importantly, your all time goals. Write them down!
For me, the yearly targets are the most important after my all time goals. I know that if I don’t reach them or at least come very close at the end of each year, the rest of my working year has been a disappointment work wise. If I manage to complete most of them, Christmas is so much sweeter.
As I write this mid December, we are coming to the close of another year and I look back with a feeling of contentment. I still have on my shelf, 3 cards pinned there from the beginning of the year with my goals for that year including health, money and personal.
One took 8 months longer than it should (building and launching ATP Members…writing this whole section) and one took 3 months less than planned (lose 3 stone or 20kg in weight…more on that later too).
One I didn’t get round too at all from my personal goals is to start to learn the guitar and piano…time just got in the way. So to motivate myself further, I am transferring that goal to my business goals next year as I intend to buy books on both instruments, learn from them and then review those books to sell through my wife’s Book site which is currently being built.
Another goal was to “de-stress” and be nicer to my kids and family because during our relocation back from Spain and whilst we got established back in the UK, I became a little hard to live with. I am now a different person and that has a lot to do with getting fit and staying that way which is why I go into some depth with this later on.
Even if you are not overweight, your health is so important, not just in running a business but in running your life. More stress is alleviated the fitter and healthier you become and if you plan to work from home, it is amazing how the fridge comes alive and just calls to you most of the day!
My biggest personal goal was to raise £5000 for some incredible charities whilst riding a motocross bike off road for 1000 miles through the stunning and sometimes crazy dangerous Wild Coast of Africa. I learned so much about myself during those 12 days especially as teamwork was a huge factor. You can read more here…Enduro Africa 2009.
A few years later, aged 46, I decided to do the Insanity course and ended up doing it 4 times in a year! I lost all the weight and didn’t know what to do next so I enrolled at 47 for Tough Mudder…
It is vitally important to have some fun throughout the year otherwise why are you doing it all? Make time for family and friends as I myself found out, they can so easily fall by the wayside if you neglect them.
So, no matter what time of year it is, start now by writing down all the things you want to achieve.
Write down your biggest desires whether it is love, money, health or a new life altogether. Writing things down and reading them every day trains your subconscious to begin to act on those wants, hopes and desires. Without even realising it you will start to move closer towards your goals.
Hocus pocus? I don’t think so!
If you cannot control yourself, you will never be able to control others and self control will set an example in yourself that is in plain view for everyone to see!
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